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I'm not saying yes to any guest posts. I haven't answered email in months. And I'm not doing any interviews at all other than the ones set up for me by third parties.
Honestly? I'm tired. I'm editing two books and planning/doing promo for a third, I'm trying to figure out how to work and still give my kids an awesome summer vacation, I'm trying to be a wife and a friend and a person. Sometimes it's hard to be a person, you know?
You might say, "Look at all the time you spend on your blog! Or on twitter! Surely in the time it takes you to write a series of silly tweets you could have answered ten emails, or responded to an interview!"
Well, maybe. But here's my reasoning:
1. I enjoy twitter and blogging. When I post things on twitter or on my blog, anyone can see them. When I answer an email, one person can see it. Twitter and blogging are easy ways to interact with thousands of fans/readers. Email is a time-consuming way to connect with a single reader. Do I hate email? Absolutely not! I love it. I read every single email I get and I appreciate the people who take the time to write. But I will admit that it gets a little bit overwhelming, and I haven't had the energy to answer them in a while. Sometimes it's too much, knowing how many people out there feel like they're connected to me through my writing and want to extend that connection on a more personal level. I understand and appreciate it! But there are just. so. many. That's all there is to it. I will eventually answer, but...emphasis on eventually.
2. Interviews. Oh, interviews. When I was getting ready for Paranormalcy's release, I had a policy of saying yes to every interview request. Didn't matter if the blog had two or two hundred or two thousand readers. I said yes. And by the end I wanted to bash my brains out with my MacBook.
"Wow, these interviews use up a lot more creative energy than I thought they would. And they take a lot more time than I thought they would, too, even when they are limited on question number."
"Wow. Most of these interviews ask the same questions (because it's natural and people are curious about the same types of things). But if I answer them all exactly the same way, that will be boring and no one will want to read them. So I have to come up with new ways to answer everything each time."
"IF I HAVE TO ANSWER HOW I CAME UP WITH THE IDEA FOR PARANORMALCY ONE MORE TIME I SWEAR I WILL TASE MYSELF."
"OH MY GOSH THIS INTERVIEW MIGHT BE THE ONLY CHANCE I HAVE TO CONVINCE THAT ONE READER WHO WON'T KNOW ABOUT MY BOOK OTHERWISE THAT I AM FUNNY AND CHARMING AND A GOOD WRITER AND THEY SHOULD READ MY BOOK BUT OH MY GOSH I AM SO TIRED AND THE FUNNY IT IS BROKEN AND I AM GOING TO BLOW IT AND THIS INTERVIEW WILL JUST CONVINCE THEM THEY ARE RIGHT TO PASS UP MY BOOK AND READ NEIL GAIMAN AGAIN INSTEAD AND REALLY HOW CAN I ARGUE WITH THAT??"
"HA HA HA I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I JUST WROTE IN THAT INTERVIEW BECAUSE IT WAS THE FIFTEENTH ONE IN A ROW I ANSWERED TRA LA LA I WILL NEVER DO ANYTHING BUT ANSWER INTERVIEW QUESTIONS FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE."
*cries quietly in the corner*
So yeah, it wasn't my brightest idea. Trying to be clever in interviews sucked up an enormous amount of time and left me creatively drained. I didn't write a single new book in 2010. I edited a couple, but I drained myself dry doing everything else.
I won't do that again.
So this time around I am doing a blog tour with only a handful of interviews, organized for me by an incredibly lovely and gracious blogger. I didn't pick who gets the interviews. I'm not playing favorites. I just can't figure out any other way to do this whole author thing and still get to be a person. My priorities are on my family, and enjoying the writing again, and being happy, and trying to add author to all of the other things in the best way I can. So that means using my established platforms that I enjoy to be silly and connect with you all in a small way, and it also means saying no.
I don't like saying no, but it's become a very important part of my vocabulary. (Even more important than "fustigate." Maybe even more than "chocolate." Definitely not more than "sleep," though.) Because I've realized that I give you my books and my stories, but I get to choose how much of myself to give, and in what ways, and that's okay. It's different for every author. And what works for me this year or even this month might change during the next.
I'm not apologizing. I need to take care of myself. But I am also not brushing off my readers. I am so incredibly grateful every single day that people care, and that they care as much as they do. It's amazing. I appreciate all of you more than you understand. I'll continue writing books and blogging and tweeting. But for now I've discovered that a gracious, humble, I'm-so-grateful-for-awesome-fans-but-I-just-can't-do-more-right-now "no" is my writing's best friend.
Probably my sanity's best friend, too.
Also the corner is grateful that I'm not curled up in it crying, because seriously. It was getting old.